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I got this from friend of mine Hey Khalid, Happy New Year! Did you achieve what you wanted in 2009? - Did you find a great partner? - Is your social life great? - Are you popular and do you feel loved? - Did you drop those pounds? - Did you stop that bad habit? Most people, unfortunately, didn't achieve their goals... and there's several reasons for that, which I'm about to reveal to you. You can get what you want this year by learning how to transform those awful New Year's Resolutions like "Be nicer to people" or "Help others more", for example, by learning how to master goal setting. Discover "the how" by continuing to read my article "Setting SMART Achievable Personal Goals" . Here is a part of the article: . Setting SMART Achievable Personal Goals . Goal-setting is the framework for personal achievement. It is the backbone of becoming the person you desire to be. Setting and achieving personal goals will guarantee you success because it is success. Most people who do set goals have little to no understanding of goal-setting – and as a result, they fail to become or get what they want. We frequently hear of people’s goals (I should say “targets”) to find a perfect partner, lose weight, or help people in need. Many people have targets and few achieve them. Why is this and what can you do to set yourself apart from the 95 plus percent of people that do not achieve their poorly set personal goals? Being an expert in setting and achieving personal goals is the greatest skill you can master. It ensures you desire something greater than what you have now and take the necessary steps to attain them. By setting and achieving personal goals you can: communicate effectively, have the partner you want, have the friends and relationship with your family you want, look your best, feel great about yourself, no longer have self-imposed limitations such as poor confidence, and generally become the person you want to be. A personal goal constructs a pathway for self development, but doing it correctly builds a superhighway to success. |
Why People Do Not Set Goals . You would think that if goal-setting was the ultimate skill and the secret to success, that everyone would develop their own goals and learn to achieve them. Unfortunately, the world is not perfect. I know with certainty that everyone will experience a more successful and enjoyable life if they learned to effectively communicate. Anthony Robbins, in my opinion the greatest modern day personal development coach, said, “The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives. ” Effective communication determines the quality of your life with others while self development determines the quality of life with yourself. Self development forms your inner communication and progresses you towards building interpersonal relationships. There are several reasons why people do not set goals, which are similar to why people do not learn effective communication. The first reason people do not set goals is they fail to see its importance. Like people that avoid developing their communication and other aspects of themselves, they do not see the importance of setting goals. I have met people unbelievably resistant to developing their communication. They have actually been insulted to hear they need to improve their communication! Every person can always communicate more effectively to improve their life. |
The second reason people do not set goals is they fear criticism. People criticize for many reasons. In the first chapter on criticism in my Communication Secrets of Powerful People, I mention the most common reason for criticism is a desire to improve people. Other reasons include a habitual perception of faults in people, anger, a belief that greatness cannot be achieved, and a hidden agenda to hold people back from reaching their goals. Average people do not want others to go beyond average. A person can fear setting goals because each time they have set goals in the past, others have criticized them for dreaming big. Others impose their self-limiting beliefs through criticism instilling fear within the person. Think of receiving criticism as a poisonous needle injected into your body. It slowly controls and destroys what you want. The destructive thought of fear controls the person from achieving anything remarkable. To overcome the fear of criticism, put bluntly, screw what people think. Do not allow people to destroy your life with their beliefs. You would not tie a one tonne boulder to your leg when swimming so stop tying people’s limiting words to your mind. Society is filled with endless garbage to prevent you from achieving your goals. If you want something, go and get it by setting and achieving personal goals with the directions given in this article. |
The third reason people do not set goals is a fear of failure. These people might think success is the absence of failure. The opposite is true. Success comes from failing a lot and failing fast. “I haven’t failed,” said famous inventor Thomas Edison. “I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ” Being an inventor, Edison knew that failure was the nuts and bolts that constructed his success. To be powerful beings, we must remove the traditional meaning of failure from our reality by changing its meaning. You do this by breaking down what failure means to you. How do you know that what you feel is failure? You are most probably frustrated with not getting what you want. You mistake frustration for failure. A failed attempt shows you took action. You overcame stagnation by stepping towards your goal. Knowing this helps you enjoy failure. That’s right! Enjoy failure! |
The fourth reason people do not set goals is a fear success. People who fear success believe success is bad. The fear is common in wealth and wanting an attractive partner because the fearful individual is afraid of negative results if one gets what he or she wants. Wealth becomes evil or a certain type of partner is categorized as unfaithful. The fear does not let them achieve what they want. |
The fifth reason people do not set goals is they do not know how. This reason relates to a fear of failure where the person has set goals in the past, but has not achieved them. The failure discourages further attempts. These people become disheartened from failure and think failure is imminent. They do not learn from past mistakes and move towards personal growth. The classic example of this is weight loss as a new year’s resolution. A temporary motivation inspires the person to lose weight in January, but no further progression is made with the goal. They bounce back to their initial state as their behavior follows the path of least resistance. If you do not set and work towards a goal now, what makes you think you will achieve it as a New Year’s resolution? There are techniques such as SMART goal-setting, which I will discuss below, that you can use to set and achieve goals rather than wishing a result based on temporary motivation too common around New Years. |
The sixth reason people do not set goals is they lack deep desire to want something greater than their present circumstances. For them, the ordinary or even sub-ordinary is sufficient. These people do not believe they can reach or deserve success because society has conditioned them to think they are ordinary people and therefore must do ordinary things. A lack of desire can also be aroused by failure, criticism, and other reasons that explain why people do not set goals. |
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